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Mike and I had a date and we told each other what would be helpful to us both regarding switching roles. He wants and desires to be the spiritual leader, so to help in the transition, I volunteered to take over the finance department.
It was a family nite/date nite combined.
Rita's custard
strawberry vanilla swirl on top....
choc. vanilla swirl on bottom...
coconut icee in middle!
Which reminded me of the sandwich method of delivering constructive criticism.
We talked about the sandwich method for dealing with kids and
how we have some strong wills to contend with,
but it can be a good thing!
So... lets focus on the strength of the gift and cultivating it, with a compliment,(the bottom bread slice)
while also weeding the weaknesses, as we see them sprout up, (the meat, or protein to grow on)
instead of waiting until the weed becomes a tree...
Then seal the deal with another compliment. (The top layer of bread)
I am reminded of the rumor weed veggie tale movie...all this weed talk!
encouraging words....
keeping notes....
reading passage.....
to utilize those leader qualities...fertilize and weed!
Mike is trying to come out of his" just going with the flow" mode
He doesn't like that about himself.
It's a start.....
I am trying as well to get more organized and not let bills overwhelm me, and hide from them...
I don't like that about myself.
It's a start.......
He finds that a fridge calendar would help him with spiritual leading.
I find the forms and graphs work good for me, like the one
that he made me when I was comparison tire shopping.
We are heading in a good direction.
Come on Jesus!
Miracles are on the Way!
Miracles are on the Way!
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So good that you have a date night and that you are communicating about these things. SOmetimes the busy-ness of life can squeeze the time out! Beautiful you! What a sweet pic. Following back- In His Grace, Dawn
ReplyDeletethank you for the sweet words Dawn...My middle name by the way...
Deletesounds like you and hubby are working hard on this marriage thing :) sometimes communication becomes my "rock" ... it is an area i struggle with. so glad to see how others handle this! thanks also for stopping by my little corner. :)
ReplyDeleteHello Nicole ! Thanks a million for stopping by A Chosen Remnant. It was a blessing to have you. I followed back on GFC.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the follow Gretchen...just love your word soaked blog...
DeleteThis is great! I'm so happy for you! Sending prayers up for you dear! Blessings!
ReplyDeleteI cherish those prayers Misty.....praying for you both as well....
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I was blog hopping before bed and stumbled onto yours. I loved this post. My husband wasn't the leader of our family for years. Neither one of us even knew he was supposed to be. What a shock when we found out, esp. since he married a strong willed leader of a wife. My husband is a passivise person, or shall I say he was, so leading wasn't his strong suit. It's now been a few years and he and I have both come a long way. (with lots of slip ups... esp. on my part ;)
Anyway, I wanted to give you a virtual hug and tell you that you're not alone. <3 We're learning too. :)
Kristy